I’m posty mcposterson today… Advice sought:
So my stepson, E, has made good friends with a local friend’s son, Z. This is exciting for Z’s mom because he has developmental issues (they adopted him out of an abusive situation as an infant) and has never connected with another child before (he’s much better with adults). So when E visits, we make sure he has playdates with Z… so he gets some time with another kid and because it’s great for Z’s mental health/development to have a kid he identifies with, not just adults.
Well, the issue now is that… another friend we all know has two kids. And they’re problem kids. My husband and I really don’t feel comfortable around them and we don’t blame her- her husband has primary custody and we know he has issues. (He lives with his parents who can provide a lot of money/time to the kids, whereas she is living with roommates and can’t, hence him having custody right now). Anyway… there’s been behavioral issues that come up whenever E is around her kids. He misbehaves a lot more, etc…
So, we want to setup a sleepover for E and Z. But we know this other friend is going to want and ask us to include her kids. How do I politely explain that we’d rather not do that?
