mybabythoughts said: Definitely institute the 2 week wait! My FIL showed up unannounced, stayed 2 weeks. I cried almost nonstop the first 2 weeks of her life. What a sucky thing to remember forever. I still dread the sound of motorcycles outside, afraid it might be him.
My mother-in-law has tried to live with us while my husband’s son is visiting. It’s INSANE. She’s SO SELFISH. The only reason we even told her we were having infertility issues is because almost every time I’d see her, she’d guilt me about not giving her a grandchild. She’d say things like ‘Is it something I did?’ and ‘Are you punishing me by refusing to have children?’ It was horrid.
She’s also insinuated, not just to me, but to others, that she expects to be present for the delivery. I’ve already told the husband that NO ONE except for him will be present. In all honesty, I’m planning on a home birth and if I could just go at it solo I would. I am a super private person.
The two-week wait is a must. I know my parents will honor my wishes: my family, fortunately, is generally very understanding of a person’s wishes and privacy. My in-laws… not so much. And it’s really just my MIL who will be an issue. My FIL is a very private person, so I bet his only input will be to fuss at my husband for upsetting his mother… but I don’t care. I’ve had three years to prepare myself for her. I will tell her to fuck off if I have to. I think that’s the only upside to how long we’ve been trying: I feel no anxiety anymore when I think about the things she’ll do because I’ve been able to mentally run through every scenario.